Question of the Week: What Would You Tell the 12-Year-Old You?

If you could sit down with the 12-year-old version of yourself, what would you tell him or her? Would you instill life lessons, give career and family advice, or forewarn them of the twists and turns that lie ahead? Share your response on today’s Hopkins Happenings’ Question of the Week.

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vonda chaney June 24, 2014 at 7:35 pm

Lots of great advice!

I'd tell myself to not think older people don't know anything or that my friend's advice is more important than elders. That parents & older folks are wise & they're trying to prevent you from making the same mistakes.

Also ask questions, don't be shy, others too don't know the answer & don't want to appear they don't know either.

Finally, tell others how much they mean to you or appreciate their efforts because all people want/need to hear thank you, love you, thank God for you! Because we're all in life together so be gentle & thankful to those around you. Even those who may be mean to you are really those who don't feel the love from others & are insecure in themselves.


Bonnie C June 10, 2014 at 4:52 pm

Some advice I might have offered would have been: This too shall pass - I was quite shy and even a little ashamed of my meager home & possessions. It seemed like EVERYONE was wealthier than I was, and now that I look back I realize I may not have had as many material possessions, but I had a family that truly loved me, and I had EVERYTHING I needed, even if it wasn't all I wanted. I had to grow a little to understand you don't need everything sold via advertisements, and I wasn't poor; in fact I was richer than some.


Annette June 16, 2014 at 9:18 am

So true! We do not realize how wealthy we are with so little and how sad we are with so much, which requires so many hours away from home and family just to keep up with the Jones'.


Yohanna peters June 2, 2014 at 3:14 pm

I would tell me how lucky I was, to have both parents in the household making sure things were just fine. how the world around me was as innocent as my eyes perceive it to be. how i shouldnt have any worries at this time besides acne and cute boys. I would tell me that I better enjoy the ride because one day I would look back and wish everything would have stayed the same....


Rose Richardson June 2, 2014 at 10:12 am

1) Remember for every action there is a reaction and the outcome is almost always negative.
2) Think before making a decision based on friend's opinions.
3) Let boys be an after thought.
4) Pick a better major for college


Miriam Reda May 29, 2014 at 9:55 am

1)Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. You will be grown up the rest of your life.
2)Your parents are very smart people who know a lot.
3) Enjoy the certainty that you know everything now while you have that feeling. It will be a little disappointing in a few years when you realize that you have a lot to learn!


Velisha May 29, 2014 at 12:31 pm

Well said. I would tell the exact same things to my 12 year old self.


Yohanna peters June 2, 2014 at 3:16 pm



CZ May 27, 2014 at 12:22 pm

I probably wouldn't say anything to myself at age 12 because a lot of my learning was because of my failings that I had to go through. If I avoided those hurdles, I may not have been where I am today. Also, if I worked harder in school or at past employment, I might not be where I am today. I believe God led me in some of my failings to meet my wife and if I changed minor things before I met her, I may never have been where I needed to be to meet her. Not meeting her and marrying someone else, and not having the same kids that I have today would be sad to me. Plus my parents taught me enough about life that I probably couldn't add to their wisdom. So my "advice" would be "you are going to love what is coming up in the next 30 years"


Annette June 16, 2014 at 9:21 am

Very well said!!!!!!


TKB May 26, 2014 at 9:06 am

Believe in yourself. Your Mom & Dad and your faith in God will have prepared you for everything that happens in life ahead. appreciate your many blessings.


Ray Drummond May 26, 2014 at 7:45 am

I would tell my 12 year old self that it's important to roll with the punches. Things never go 100% as we plan and it's important to take what we can and move on. I'd remind him that yes...all that madness in junior and high school is worth it. I'd ask that he be open to advice from those more experienced in life, but make up his own mind at the end. And finally, it doesn't really matter how you feel about a person, if you have a job or task to do you do it.


Sharon K. Manson May 26, 2014 at 7:33 am

I would tell myself: Learn to respect everyone; even if you don't agree with their opinions. Love your family and friends, they are not here forever. Education is important. You don't have to be at the top of your class...just be in the class and absorb the subject being taught. Attend the church of your choice and be an active participant because when family and friends are gone...God is always there. Above all else...don't postpone joy. Grab it at every opportunity.


Tanya Fernandez-Rice May 23, 2014 at 5:53 pm

I would tell my 12-year old self to not to be in such a hurry to grow up. Once you get grown , you stay grown until you die, you can never go back. I would sa,y get as much education as you can because all your education and achievements will make you more comfortable later in life, as opposed to not being able to make the amount of money you need for the lifestyle you will want. I would tell me to listen to your parents, respect them and all adults. They know much more than you, because they have lived longer. I would tell me to have fun with your siblings as you may be separated later. Treasure true friendships and love completely even though it may hurt, because it will hurt more later if you have never been in love. LOVE GOD, with all your heart, your mind and your soul, trust him with everything, and talk to him as he wants to hear from you, and he loves you literally to DEATH !!!!


Katie May 23, 2014 at 2:32 pm

Things always have a way of working themselves out. Don't get too worked up when bad things happen. They will make you a stronger person. Treat others kindly and laugh a lot!


JC Barahona May 23, 2014 at 11:01 am

Aways listen your your parets, love them as they are not there for eternity, keep close relationship to your siblings. stay healthy, Always make yourself better, and be honest .
Find a carrier that will make your life more meaningful. do lots of traveling for the Lord created this land for you to enjoy.If your marriage does not work, always take care of your children and tell them you love them even when they pick a side. Try to go for miningful experiences and laugh a lot.


Ella Mae Haber May 23, 2014 at 10:29 am

I would tell him or her to always learn as much as possilbe in school and in realy life from paretns and older members of family. Also make themaware of all the bad disease that can happen to h=them if they are not carfull--because there are alot of 12 years that are having babies(now adays). There things out there that are worse that having babies...Always shot for the stars in what ever they decide to do in life and that they will always be loved no matter what they do or what happens to the family or them..For the parents of newborns love them and soil them as much as you can because soon they will grow up(fastly)


Linda Pierce May 23, 2014 at 9:58 am

Don't play the music too loud, and wear earplugs to concerts. Tinnitis is a terrible thing. Learn another language. The fudgesicles DO eventually catch up to you. Grandparents are not around forever and they love you SO much. Keep in touch!!


Jennifer Ross-Wilkinson May 23, 2014 at 9:37 am

I would tell my self to NOT be so focused on "things getting better in the future" that I don't take the time to appreciate and enjoy the "good" happening in the present. And to NOT put off spending time with loved ones (especially grandparents) until a more convenient time, or until when you get all of your "to-do" list completed. They may be gone when you finally have "the time".


GV May 23, 2014 at 9:05 am

So many things I would say ...not necessarily to change the direction in life, but to pay more attention to more of the little things in life that can have an impact later. Take painting and dancing classes. Go to Sunday School or church more. Pay more attention to your studies. Read more. Read a lot more! Learn a another language or two. Plan to go to college or nursing school. Keep focused but have fun while doing it. Be a kid. Pray to god everyday and be very thankful for each and every day.


Melinda Thomas May 23, 2014 at 8:49 am

I was surrounded by positive influences from a very young age, so I would tell my 12-year old self to always listen to wise advice. Listen to my mother because there's lots of wisdom and common sense when advice comes from someone older. It's ok to fail, the true test is overcoming that failure.


Karla Rivas May 23, 2014 at 8:12 am

I would tell my 12 year old self to never be afraid, trust on God and that everything is going to ok.


Kaye May 23, 2014 at 8:52 am

I would have the same conversation!!!


EVR May 23, 2014 at 7:50 am

I would say, "When your mom wants to go for a walk with you, please go with her. Don't argue about it - just do it. Enjoy all the time with her that you possibly can."


Renee Patterson May 23, 2014 at 5:50 am

I would warn my 12 year old self to absorb the advice that is given to you from your elders/ grandparents. I would inform myself to take school seriously and that education plays a key role in your future success. My 12 year old self would need to know that when thing get hard you just don't give up and walk away. Instead pick up from were you left off and try again, learn from your mistake as you go along. I would tell my 12 year old self is that it's ok ask for help instead of keeping it to yourself and never knowing or understanding. One of the last thing I would tell myself is that failure is a part of life.


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